Wednesday, January 27, 2010

A Different Kind of Garden

AHH, January in Kansas. There is nothing quite like extreme cold, bitter wind, ice under snow, snow melting into slush and then turning back to ice again.
It's times like this I envy people who live in milder climates. Don't get me wrong it's not the cold that bothers me, and I really do love the snow, but for the most part winter is just a downright ugly season!

Today the view out my kitchen window is last summer's planters filled with the dead remnants of what were once thriving flowers and plants. With the arrival of freezing temperatures the colorful view quickly became a distant memory and we were left with a brown and barren landscape.

On the other hand, I did bring some of the larger, more expensive plants indoors for the winter. The problem is, they must struggle to find the sun and I don't do a very good job remembering to water them so although they are alive, they are far from healthy.

I think its safe to say that Kansas winters are not very conducive to growth! In fact, January can be as dreary and depressing as the gray sky.

We may even discover that our hearts (blooming with love, joy and thanksgiving just a few weeks ago) have become hard, gloomy and discontented. Like the sickly plants I brought inside for the winter, our hearts are in desperate need of a good fertilizer that can sustain us until we are in a season when we can once again thrive.

But, like tropical plants in Kansas winters, how do we promote growth in difficult or uncomfortable conditions?

We start by tilling the soil of our hearts with gratitude.

We remember and remind ourselves of what God has:
blessed us with,
brought us to,
delivered us from,
promised us...
And then we cultivate that field of thankfulness by sharing His kindness and compassion with others.

When we spend time with our Creator regularly, thanking Him for all He has done, the hard soil of our heart begins to loosen. Seeds of thankfulness develop roots and begin to grow into what God created them to be. Eventually the ground softens enough that the tender shoots of new growth are able to break through the top layer and bask in the full glory of the Son!

Galatians 6:7 says "we reap what we sow" and it's only when we are sowing seeds of gratitude and praise that we can hope to reap a harvest of blessing. Eventually, if we are diligent in cultivating gratitude, we will find an abundant harvest of the "fruit of the Spirit":
Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Long suffering, Meekness,
Gentleness, Kindness, Faith and Temperance.
So where do you find yourself today?
  • Have you been hit by a sudden "hard frost" or "long winter" that has left you weak and hopeless like the flowers left outside?
  • Or are you more like the plants that were moved inside? Hanging in there, surviving but just going through the motions; doing OK but far from healthy and thriving?

Well the good news is that, unlike gardening in Kansas, we don't have to wait for a change in the weather to plant a garden of gratitude. That can be easier said than done in a culture built on personal comfort, excess and entitlement so this year I have made it my goal to teach my children how to reap a harvest of blessing that comes from cultivating gratitude.

How?...

I purchased an inexpensive weekly calendar and keep it next to the computer where each day everyone is invited to write 1 to 5 things they are grateful for. When some of the family (mainly teenagers) balked at the idea I appealed to their sense of competition and offered a prize for whoever wrote on the most days of each month (ice cream or candy should work well). It may sound like a bribe but I like to think of it as a short term reward that will have long term effects. As they try to "win" the meager prize I offer they are receiving something much greater...a grateful heart!

Personally I hope they all "win". A family ice cream night is something to be grateful for indeed!!

So in closing, here are a few of the things our family is grateful for in January 2010....

  • Home
  • Jesus is the Gate!
  • Memories of good times
  • Siblings
  • No school on Monday!
  • The people trying to help with the Haiti earthquake
  • Education
  • Our dog Maggie
  • My sister making my bed for me.
  • All the people on earth

That is just a sample of our "garden of gratitude", what does yours look like??

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Kelley,
Thank you for this post on having a thankful heart. We take so many things for granted and sometimes it's the most common thing, something that we don't even think twice about that we should be most thankful for ~ I know mine is my family, immediate and extended. Even with all the issues, problems and different viewpoints ~ I am truly thankful and blessed to have them surround me. I love the way you wrote about tilling the soil;


We start by tilling the soil of our hearts with gratitude. We remember and remind ourselves of what God has blessed us with,
brought us to,delivered us from,
promised us...And then we cultivate that field of thankfulness by sharing His kindness and compassion with others.

Beautiful,
Thank you for that today

Patricia - Burlington, Ontario

Kathy S. said...

Bravo!! Awesome idea! A reminder I needed this January in Wisconsin. You are so right...I was just looking out my window today...first at the dirty snow from the gravel being scraped off the driveway, then at my perennials that are still standing, dreaming of April.

Maybe someone will write a song...Praise Him in the Cold...;)
Blessings on your thankful family!

Paulette said...

I am so glad that you are back in "Blog Land"! You have been missed. Once again, your blog posts are real and inspirational.

What a great idea with the weekly calendar by the computer. Especially since everyone in our family uses the calendar. Today, I am thankful for my friend Kelley, who wrote a post about being thankful, and much more!

Love, Paulette

Pamela (His maidservant) said...

Great post and even better idea for the family I will have tog ive it some thought. Seems like it would also build unity and what family couldn't use a little of that.
I am ready for the cold to leave. I have had a lot of dreams of spring and planting. My husband has threaten to hide the arden tools.
Good to see you again in blog world Kelley. I need to have you update my blog but I am only here a few times a month...never enough time in the day for everything I want to do.

Blessings!!

In His Graces~Pamela